While I was at the Publix tonight I overheard two women who knew each other chatting. One mentioned that her husband was having a bonfire tonight and the other one was getting ready for a trip to a cabin. Since my family DOES NOT, and NEVER HAS done much in the way of anything social I was jealous of their conversation. I see folks posting on Facebook all the time about all the stuff they are DOING but this was in my face proof that even ladies a few years advanced from me were having a hell of a lot more fun than me.
Here’s where I mention I grocery shop alone. I suppose a family member would come along if I allowed them to grab shit willy-nilly but I’m a couponer. I’ve seen more than one family couponing together but it would take an act of god to get mine to do it.
Next I stopped off at Wal-Mart for some vino. I had a bit of troubling getting to it as there was a group of enthusiastic women occupying most of the isle. Once they noticed me they were really sweet. I could tell they were in the midst of a rather large wine purchase and it made me sad that I was buying one huge bottle to take home and drink alone. Coming on the heals of the Publix encounter this one almost undid me, but I told myself to suck it up and keep moving.
Still wasn’t done with the grocery shopping so I headed onto Kroger. By this point I was really tired and after loading up on some produce I drifted down the isles hunting for bargains. Lost in my own reverie I’m not even sure I realized there were other customers next to me until I heard, “Didn’t we just see you in Wal-Mart?”
I stared blankly for a minute trying to remember if I had been in Wal-Mart (tired, remember?) and then said yes and as they started talking, I discovered it was the wine ladies. They had left about $100 worth of wine behind at Wal-Mart because the cashier insisted on carding every single person in the party; they were visiting from out of town and being driven about by an under-age niece.
So as they explained to me how the whole thing when down I felt myself becoming happier. Sure, I was still going home alone but the universe allowed me a much needed moment of camaraderie. I ending our conversation with the remark, “That is the stupidest thing I have heard of in a long time,” and they agreed.
And the lesson of all this, beyond the oft occurring one that people are basically good and friendly, is that I need to be the one making plans for the family. I can’t make the adults participate but the kids are always up for something to do.